Let's talk about RESENTMENT
Let’s talk about RESENTMENT.
We often think that resentment says a lot about the people or patterns we resent. It turns out, our resentment has almost nothing to do with the other person.
Rather, resentment is a signal to self that we have not set or upheld necessary boundaries. This can be a bitter pill, but bear with me.
If resentment is something you experience often, you may be assuming that other people should already know what you expect in relationships. Along with this assumption comes an unwillingness to acknowledge, communicate and advocate for your own needs.
If resentment is a go-to for you, the idea of setting a boundary may invoke a kind of panic. Maybe you’d rather leave the relationship than clearly state what you need and want.
On the flip side, if even if we set boundaries and but repeatedly allow someone to transgress them, there are no consequences. There have to be consequences or that person (especially if they benefit from the arrangement as it is) has no reason to change their behavior.
One more thing. The fuel for setting boundaries lies in being able to feel and interpret our authentic anger.
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